2 Samuel 14:33b “Thus he came to the king and prostrated himself on his face to the ground before the king, and the king kissed Absalom.”

FALSE REMORSE

Have you ever had someone come to you and apologize, and you knew they didn’t really mean it?  You know they were either being forced to do this or they had an ulterior motive.  This is what we have here with Absalom.  He wasn’t sorry.  You can see that clearly if you continue to read in 2 Samuel.  Absalom just wanted to come home so he could be “the king’s son” again.

Position has its privilege, and Absalom wanted the privilege.  He was proud and cocky.  He had no sooner seen the king after 5 years of exile (3 away and 2 back at home) than he began his plot to overthrow his father.  You can’t always believe people.  But David kissed his son anyway.

TEACHING MOMENT

 Teaching our children to forgive is hard.  There is really no way to do that other than modeling it for them.  I am sure, as a parent, you have told your little Johnny to tell his sister he was sorry after hitting her.  And he probably reluctantly did that, but you and his sister knew he didn’t mean it.  Only time would tell if he really was sorry.

But we still have to teach them.  We still have to forgive others.  We still have to give them the benefit of the doubt.  Just think how many times the Lord forgives you when you are less than honest with Him.  He loves you and wants you to come to Him in repentance.  Only time will tell if you are truly remorseful.

Are you forgiving others?  Are you repentant yourself?  Try today to truly forgive someone.  Perhaps someone has wronged you in the past and you are holding on to that.  Let it go.  Maybe someone will approach you today and ask for forgiveness.  Give it to them.  Remember you too are in need of forgiveness every day.

Father in Heaven, forgive me today.  Give me the strength to forgive others also.  Help me model forgiveness and repentance to others.

 2 Samuel 8:15 “So David reigned over all Israel; and David administered justice and righteousness for all his people.”

LEGACY

 Finally, David is able to rule and reign.  Finally, he is able to concentrate on leading his people. Finally, he is able to be the king God had intended for His people.  Why?  Because David had honored God in each and every action. Continue reading →

2 Samuel 4:7 “Now when they came into the house, as he was lying on his bed in his bedroom, they struck him and killed him and beheaded him. And they took his head and traveled by way of the Arabah all night.”

THAT CAN MEAN A LOT OF THINGS

 I am sure you have heard that expression “lost their head.”  Most of the time when we hear that it means someone just went crazy for a bit.  They got angry and spouted off.  But in this story, Ish-bosheth literally lost his head, but it wasn’t for anything he had done.  He was murdered.  And to make the matter worse, the two who murdered him thought they were doing David, the new king, a favor.

In fact, those two men are the ones who lost their heads.  They took matters into their own hands and acted on behalf of someone for whom they had no business representing.  And it cost them their lives.  David would have no part of an innocent man’s murder.

TEACHING MOMENT

Children can get upset and “lose their heads” sometimes too.  As parents, one of our jobs is to teach them to maintain their cool.  Emotionally stability is important.  No one wants to be around someone who is constantly blowing up and railing at others.  Your children need to learn to stop, breathe and ask the Lord for peace.

Now, this all sounds easy.  It is not.  But remember peace comes from within.  The Spirit of God gives our children, if they are believers, the peace they need to handle any situation.  The only real peace is that which comes from the Father.  He is the ultimate peace maker and peace sustainer.

Are you a model of peace in your home or are you the one who is always “losing your head”?  What will your children learn from you?  Does the peace that transcends all understanding control you?  Let His peace transform your mind today.

God, I know Your peace can fill me.  I have felt it before.  Help me stop and rest in Your peace.  Help me model that for others.

 2 Samuel 3:36 “Now all the people took note of it, and it pleased them, just as everything the king did pleased all the people.

PEOPLE ARE WATCHING

 This verse follows the story of Joab, David’s army commander, killing Abner, Ishbosheth’s army commander, by tricking him to return to Hebron where David began his reign as King of Israel.  David was upset and wanted the people to know he had NOT endorsed this murder.  His actions pleased the people.

But look at the last phrase, “just as everything the king did pleased all the people.” This wasn’t a one-time thing.  David lived his life as an example of following the Lord.  Everything he did pleased the Father, so everything he did pleased the people.  Oh, to live that way.

TEACHING MOMENT

If we can teach our children to live to please the Father, they will please us.  There is nothing a Christian parent desires more than to see their children walking with God.  How can I argue with that?

So, how do we do that?  How do we teach them to walk closely with the Lord, thus pleasing us?  By consistently teaching and leading them to God’s Word.  That is the key.  There is no magic formula.  The answers to how to walk closely with the Lord lie right in the Scriptures.

Are you following the Lord daily?  Can your family say, “Everything you do pleases us”?  Can your employer say that?  Can the Lord say that?  Be like David.  Seek the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.

O Lord, I desire to please You in all I do.  I want others to be pleased with me as I please You.  Help me lead my children to do the same.

 Psalm 90:4 “For a thousand years in Your sight are like yesterday when it passes by, or as a watch in the night.”

A DIFFERENT CLOCK

Have you ever been awake all night listening to the clock tick?  Boy, I have.  Some nights I am awake more than I am asleep.  But I have found those nights to be sweet times with the Lord.  That’s a whole other story.

This verse, especially the last phrase, reminded me of that.  God’s clock runs different than ours.  He can see all of eternity at the same time.  Our finite minds can’t comprehend that, nor could we handle it if we could.  We simply have to trust that time is in His hands, not ours.

TEACHING MOMENT

 Teaching time to our children is a challenge, isn’t it?  Do you remember learning to tell time on the old analog clocks?  Now everything is digital, but the challenge of understanding time is still there.  Our children have to learn to look at time with Biblical eyes though.  Time isn’t just time.  It’s a spot on the line of eternity.

Do some math with your kids.  Count up the number of seconds in a minute, then an hour, then a day, then a week, then a month, then a year and then since they have been born.  That will blow their minds.  Every second counts.  Teach them to make the most of each second.

But, are you doing that?  Are you aware of how much time you waste watching tv or piddling around?  I am guilty of that.  Show your kids by your actions that time is important to you and to the Lord.

Maker of time, remind me of my place in eternity.  Every minute You bless me with is a minute I should use to glorify You.  Thank You for giving me this day.

 1 Samuel 27:6 “So Achish gave him Ziklag that day; therefore Ziklag has belonged to the kings of Judah to this day.”  Continue reading →

 Psalm 87:6 “The Lord will count when He registers the peoples, ‘This one was born there.’ Selah.”

HE’S COUNTING

Isn’t it amazing how many times you see a new verse when you read God’s Word?  This verse, for instance.  I have read Psalm 87 many times, but today this verse hit me.  God is counting us!  He knows when and where I was born.  Now, I’ve always known that, but I had never seen it written.  Well, I had seen it, but it never registered like this before.

Where were you born?  I was born at Phoebe Putney Hospital in Albany, GA on a Friday evening around 6 p.m.  I only weighed a little over 5 pounds (I have been trying since then to gain weight, lol).  That evening, God counted me.  Selah!

TEACHING MOMENTS

When you help your children with their math and they are complaining, read them this verse.  Tell them that even God counts.  And think of how high He has to count to count everyone who ever lived.  Hmmm, I wonder how many that is?  Some estimate over 100 billion. Only God knows.

Remind your children that they are important if God counted them.  He knows them intimately.  He not only counted them, but He also counted every hair on their head. Wow!  Now that’s a good counter.

What are you counting right now?  Are you counting the number of days until vacation?  How about the number of days until you can retire?  How about counting something important like the number of your neighbors or friends or family members who don’t know Christ?  Then start subtracting from that number by being deliberate to share Christ with them.

Lord, You are the ultimate mathematician.  Nothing escapes Your keen eye.  Thank You for counting me and knowing me like You do. 

 1 Samuel 20:42 “Jonathan said to David, ‘Go in safety, inasmuch as we have sworn to each other in the name of the Lord, saying, “The Lord will be between me and you, and between my descendants and your descendants forever.”’ Then he rose and departed, while Jonathan went into the city.”

LIFE LONG FRIENDS

 How many of you have ever had a best friend?  I mean one you could not see for years and then pick up right where you left off.  I have one of those.  We may go years without seeing each other due to the distance between us. But when we are together it is like no time has passed.  Pretty cool.

Jonathan and David had a covenant friendship.  They loved each other.  But it went beyond that.  Their friendship extended beyond themselves to their descendants.  They promised to love each other’s families.  That’s true friendship.  That’s rare.  But it is possible with God.

TEACHING MOMENT

Making these kinds of friends isn’t easy. It requires us, as parents, to invest in our children’s friends.  My wife and I had to allow our children to spend the time with their friends, either at their house or ours, to develop deep relationships.  Both of our children have childhood friends to this day.  But they could not have done that without our help.

You may not can choose your children’s friends, but you can sure guide them in their choosing.  You can sure invest in their friends’ lives.  My wife and I are “mom” and “dad” to many of our children’s childhood friends to this day.  Why?  Because we loved them.  We showed them Jesus.

Are you loving your children’s friends?  Are you being a witness to them?  Are you praying for them and with them?  That’s how you impact your children’s choice of friends.  Make them your friends too.

O God, thank You for allowing me to invest in the lives of others, especially my children’s friends.  Thank You for the joy of seeing them grow in Christ. 

 1 Samuel 18:8-9 “8 Then Saul became very angry, for this saying displeased him; and he said, ‘They have ascribed to David ten thousands, but to me they have ascribed thousands. Now what more can he have but the kingdom?’ 9 Saul looked at David with suspicion from that day on.

 BEWARE OF ITS TRAP

 Saul liked all the attention.  After all, he was the anointed King of Israel, the first king.  He should be the one getting all the praise.  So, when David began getting all the attention, Saul couldn’t stand it.  Jealousy began to build up.

The young boy who had been chosen to play the harp to calm Saul became the object of suspicion.  The young man who had killed Goliath became a challenger to the throne.  David was getting what Saul wanted – the love of the people.  Verse 9 says, “Saul looked at David with suspicion from that day on.”  The word “suspicion” means Saul tried to find some iniquity or fault in David.  But he couldn’t.

TEACHING MOMENT

As parents, we need to watch out for that evil monster of jealousy in our kids.  Siblings can show it against each other.  Children can show it against their friends.  They want what the other person has.  And it begins.  Jealousy leads to evil actions.  It is never good when it is directed against others.

If we are not careful our children can allow this jealousy to control their every action.  They will even, like Saul, try to find some “dirt” on the other person to expose.  Then they will appear better than that person.  Little Johnny doesn’t get picked to be on a ball team, so he decides to trash someone who did.  Little Susie likes a boy who likes someone else, so she decides to spread rumors about the girl.

Don’t allow this.  Stop it quickly.  And don’t show signs of jealousy in your life.  You know what I mean.  Even we adults get jealous when we see someone else getting something we want.  Confess that now!  Give that to the Lord.

Lord, I confess to You now any spirit of jealousy that comes on me.  Lord, I want to be content with whatever You choose to bless me with.  You know exactly what I need and can handle.  Thank You, Father.

 1 Samuel 14:27 “But Jonathan had not heard when his father put the people under oath; therefore, he put out the end of the staff that was in his hand and dipped it in the honeycomb, and put his hand to his mouth, and his eyes brightened.”

WHAT’S SWEETER

 Without knowing it, Jonathan had disobeyed his father, Saul.  He was busy fighting the Philistines and had not heard the command to fast until the battle was over.  But he was faint from all the fighting and knew the honey would restore his energy to continue the fight.

It’s interesting when he found out about the command that he remarked how foolish it was (verses 29-30).  But when he came back to his father and it was revealed what he had done, he was willing to die for his disobedience (verse 43).  He recognized his father’s right as king to make any command.

TEACHING MOMENT

So, what is this story about?  How do we teach it to our children?  One lesson we can get from this is Jonathan’s submission to his father.  Even though he disagreed with the command, he was willing to accept the consequence for his disobedience.  He had disobeyed unknowingly, but he had still disobeyed.

Your children are going to question your authority.  If not already, it will happen.  Remember, questioning your authority does not weaken your authority.  You are still the parent.  Our children need to see that authority carries with it the requirement to lead them correctly and fairly.  And when you blow it, and you will, you have the wherewithal to make it right.

What command of God are you questioning right now?  Are you remorseful when confronted?  Are you willing to accept the consequence?  Be like Jonathan.  Let God direct you.  And when He does, follow.  Period!

Lord, I may not understand or even agree with all your directives in my life, but I want to follow.  Help me make my heart more submissive to Your Will.