Proverbs 13:24 “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.”
SPOIL THE CHILD
Don’t get me started about discipline! Wow! In my years of ministry, I have witnessed first hand every conceivable method of child raising. You have both extremes in the church. You have those parents who don’t want to hurt the child’s feelings, so they let the child dictate their behavior. Then you have the “slap and shout” method where the child resembles a gun-shy dog afraid to even raise their head.
God’s Word is plain. We must discipline our children. To not do so is NOT loving. I am asked all the time what that means. There is no easy answer as it depends on the child. But one thing is always true. We must discipline in love. We discipline because we love. We discipline to show them love. We discipline because God in His love for us disciplines us.
You may have the most compliant child in history living in your home or the strongest willed child ever born. Be Jesus to them. I often wonder what kind of dad Jesus would have been. I mean, He was perfect, so He would have been the perfect dad, but what does that look like?
I believe child rearing is more about us, the parents, learning to die to self than us teaching our children anything. As we die to self and become more Christ-like, our children are drawn to us. Well, they aren’t drawn to US. They are drawn to Jesus in us. Isn’t that what it is all about anyway?
What truth about discipline do you need to learn? What is it about being disciplined that you do not like? Give that to the Father. Let Him show you how to live today that honors Him. He will be glad to do it.