Job 33:31-33 “’31 Pay attention, O Job, listen to me; keep silent, and let me speak. 32 Then if you have anything to say, answer me; speak, for I desire to justify you. 33 If not, listen to me; keep silent, and I will teach you wisdom.’”
Elihu probably meant well. I don’t know. But sometimes you just need to keep silent and love on the person. He didn’t know what was really going on with Job. He supposed, like the other friends, that Job was being punished by God for sin. He could not have known that God was allowing this in Job’s life for a purpose.
Isn’t is funny how we always see the sin in others, but not in ourselves? We can easily see their faults and failures and walk right over our own. I have to imagine that Elihu was no perfect angel. I am sure he had his own sins which needed confessing.
Learning to keep our mouth shut is not easy. As parents, we need to teach our children the skill of listening. I have counseled many people by just listening. I don’t say a lot. Our children need to learn to listen fully before commenting. When they have a friend who needs advice, listen first.
We should teach them to also pray for their friends. Job needed that. But his friends didn’t do that. Teach your children to pray right when someone asks them to. Don’t put it off. Pray while you are with them. That will bless them.
Who do you need to go to today to lend a listening ear? Don’t make it about you. Don’t go with an agenda to “help” them. Simply go as a friend who loves them and wants to be there for them. If you have to use words, use His.