I Kings 11:1-2 “1 Now King Solomon loved many foreign women along with the daughter of Pharaoh: Moabite, Ammonite, Edomite, Sidonian, and Hittite women, 2 from the nations concerning which the Lord had said to the sons of Israel, ‘You shall not associate with them, nor shall they associate with you, for they will surely turn your heart away after their gods.’ Solomon held fast to these in love.”
How many of us Parents pray that our children marry well? I might guess – ALL! Who would want their children to marry an unbeliever? Who would want their son or daughter to be “unequally yoked”? We want our children to find that mate who shares their love for Jesus and is committed to raise their future children (your grandchildren) to love Jesus.
God had the same desire for His children. He warned them NOT to intermarry with the pagans of the land. But here we see Solomon, the wisest man alive, fall into the trap of marrying pagan women. I have to guess these were probably beautiful women. Why else would the King of Israel marry them? He could have married any woman in Israel, but he chose pagan women. Why? What drove Solomon to disobey the Lord in this way?
I have often wondered why, if Solomon was so wise, he would want all those wives and concubines. The answer is really simple. He wanted his own way. I am the same way. You are the same way. And guess what? Your children are the same way.
My guess is also that these women were nice, pagan women. Solomon wouldn’t have married a mean or vicious woman. But their unbelief and their ties to pagan gods disqualified them as legitimate, God approved spouses for anyone who was a believer.
The same is true for your children, but they must make their own decision regarding their mate. They also, like Solomon, must live with the consequences. Solomon’s choices of wives and concubines led him away from the one true God and eventually cost his son, Rehoboam, the kingdom.
We must point our children toward God’s choice for them. That doesn’t mean we arrange their marriage, but that we lay the biblical foundation that will guide them as they seek God’s will for their future. Pray hard!